April 21, 2026

Experiences Bring Us Closer To Understanding

Living life differently, with Diverse Abilities.

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Diverse Abilities Programs Inc.

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My friend Bernice went to a restaurant, where the entire meal, from entering the restaurant to leaving, was experienced in total darkness. The servers are all blind, which beautifully shows what’s possible when environments are truly inclusive.


Let me tell you, it meant a lot to me.


For one evening, my sighted friend stepped into my world.

  • No sight.
  • No visual cues.


Just trust and a whole lot of figuring things out in ways most people never have to think about.



Things like:

  • Where’s my fork?
  • Is there food on it?
  • Where’s my napkin?
  • Am I about to knock over my drink?
  • What’s on my plate, and how do I know when I’m done?


Now imagine sitting at a table and not knowing what’s in front of you or even if you have the right plate.


You hear voices, but you don’t know who’s around you.


You can’t tell what they’re wearing, if they’re smiling or if this experience is bringing tears to their eyes.


Multiple conversations are happening all around you.


Cutlery clinks against plates, background noise builds, and you’re still trying to focus on eating and listening.


Then something brushes up against you.


You don’t know who or what just touched you.


No one says anything.


You can’t see a face, a hand, or an intention.


Even though you know you’re in a safe space… it can feel unsettling, uncomfortable, and even scary for a moment.


For those of us with no or very limited vision, this isn’t just a dinner. It’s daily life.


Most people know I’m legally blind, but many don’t realize how limited my vision really is. I move through the world pretty confidently, so it’s easy to assume I see more than I do. But I’ve had to relearn almost everything from navigating the dinner table, picking out clothes, shopping, crossing streets and everyday activities and tasks. None of it “just happens.” It’s taken practice, patience, and a lot of adapting.


That’s why it moved me so much that Bernice was willing to step into our experience. She didn’t go to a show, she didn’t watch a documentary, she didn’t just say, “I support you.” She went into the dark. She felt the discomfort, and she embraced it.


That’s powerful.


When a friend or family member chooses to step outside their comfort zone to learn more about what life is like for someone with a disability, any disability, it shows so much.


It shows respect.


It shows care.


It builds bridges.


This isn’t about simulating someone’s condition or “trying it on.” It’s about empathy. It’s about being willing to feel even a fraction of what someone else might face daily, not to “get it,” but to honour it.


So if you’ve ever taken the time to learn, to listen, or to ask thoughtful questions, thank you. If you haven’t yet, maybe now’s the time.


Step into someone else’s shoes for a moment.


You might come away seeing the world a little differently.


“Having a disability hasn’t changed who I am, it has changed my interactions with the world” Gina Martin. 


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